USING YOUR MIND FOR SEDUCTION

Nothing can replace actually going
out there and doing something.
Nothing. That said, a LOT of
learning CAN be done from... well,
anywhere. If you can create a
realistic world within your head,
you can practice all sorts of
scenarios, hone your skills, and
learn what will work and what
won't. Think of it as your own
private holodeck. Just don't talk
about it that way. Ever.

Beat Down!

Ok, brace yourself. This is for
your own good.

YOU WORTHLESS TOAD OF A MAN WHATSA
MATTA WID YA GIT THAT ASS IN GEAR
OR I'LL RIDE YA LIKE A LAWNMOWIN'
JOHN DEERE THAT'S MY BRAND!

Ah, that felt kinda good.
Cathartic even.

But seeing as you're curled on the
floor crying, not so much for you
(yes, I know you probably did
nothing more than raise an
eyebrow, but work with me here).

I've got a message in that odd
rant. And it's not about berating
or anything like that - in fact,
as you know, I'm all about
POSITIVE thinking.

Rather, that's an example of
exactly what you SHOULDN'T be
saying to yourself, ever.

Yet if you go out and fail with a
woman, odds are high you're saying
some variation of it - without the
corny imagery and a few more
swears, I'd imagine.

The Right Alternative

There's something you should be
doing instead. Something which,
instead of freezing you next time
or causing undue stress, actually
INCREASES your success rate.

Something called visualization.
We'll get to that in a moment.

First, if you EVER berate yourself
when things aren't going the way
you want them to, you're holding
yourself back. You're framing the
situation in a way GUARANTEED to
fall short.

You're thinking only of the end
goal, not the journey.

You're thinking of failure, not
learning.

And you'll NEVER learn without
mistakes, and you'll NEVER
continue if you see those mistakes
as failures.

Practice!

What everyone needs when picking
up ANY new skill is practice. This
practice is a little harder to
stick to, because when you err
it's in front of at least one
other person, instead of alone in
your room with your guitar or
whatever.

But you've GOT to fight through
that. You've GOT to practice like
your sex life depended on it -
which of course, it does.

But actual practice isn't enough.
There just aren't enough
opportunities, enough chances, to
hone your skills in a timely way.
Not within a very satisfying time
frame.

Back we go, straight to
visualization.

The brain is one of most amazing
things we've ever discovered in
the universe - it's complex,
brilliant, fascinating, and about
a thousand other glowing
superlatives we don't have time
for.

And it's also a bunch of dumb grey
matter.

Dumb? Yeah. Why? The brain doesn't
know the difference between
reality and imagination.

In other words, if you look at a
picture of a triangle or you
imagine the same triangle eyes
closed, your brain lights up in
the exact same way. If you make a
free throw or you just imagine
making a free throw, same thing.

No matter WHAT the task, action,
or object, the reality of it and
the VISUALIZATION of it are
IDENTICAL within your head.

Now that doesn't mean you can just
sit your ass on the couch and
IMAGINE picking up girls, because
you need more than just your brain
to get success.

You need your body to remember the
right posture, gestures, etc, and
that comes from real world
practice, nothing else.

You also have all sorts of anxiety
triggers which work in VERY
different ways when dealing with a
real world situation, so you need
actual practice to get to know and
control THOSE, and build your
confidence.

Nevertheless, visualization is a
HUGELY powerful tool, used by just
about anyone who has ever achieved
success in a field.

Ray Kroc, founder of MickyD's?
Used it. Ted Williams? Credited
most of his hits to visualization
(insert favorite freezer geezer
joke here). Beethoven? The man was
deaf when he wrote his 5th
Symphony, for god's sake, how do
you think he did it?

EVERYONE who knows ANYTHING about
success gives props to
visualization. Never mind all the
theories that people try to attach
to it - we're not here for a
philosophical debate.

It works. That's enough for me.
Use it.

Two flavors

There are two basic ways to employ
visualization. Before and After.

We're going to start with after,
because it's simpler.

As promised... After!

Here, when an experience is still
fresh in your mind (like on the
car ride home, or just after
stepping in the door) you want to
replay the whole thing.

Don't skimp - if you're going to
make this work, you need to really
CONCENTRATE and get VIVID.

It's not enough to picture the
girl's face and hear her words and
yours. The more detailed the
picture, the truer the experience.

So take the time to build up the
environment in your mind. What's
on the wall? What music is
playing? Where are you sitting or
standing, and who's nearby? The
more detailed you can get, the
better.

Once you've got a fairly sound
environment, go ahead and play out
the encounter. First person, third
person, doesn't matter. Observe
what worked. Especially observe
what didn't.

After you've recreated everything,
go back and CHANGE comments here
and there. Use a new opener.
Change your follow up to make it
more funny, less offensive,
whatever would be an improvement
on the original.

The nice thing about this after-
the-fact visualization is we
humans are actually quite
intelligent creatures - especially
when it comes to social situations
- and, given your previous contact
and experience, you'll usually be
able to guess RIGHT about how any
particular woman will react as you
switch the stimuli around.

So you can use visualization to
change one encounter, one
practice, into MULTIPLE encounters
- basically without limit. Flirt
away, with ZERO repercussions and
a chance to see how all sorts of
material actually play out in the
"field."

And after After, Before!

Post-practice is the best way to
improve, but pre-practice
visualization is the best way to
up your chances THAT NIGHT.

VERY few things can up your
confidence more dramatically than
knowing EXACTLY what you're going
to do before you do it, and having
a pretty good idea of what will
happen as a result.

THIS is the sort of visualization
most often practiced by sports
figures, the way they get ready
for a game or an at-bat.

If you've ever played baseball at
anything above little league
level, you know coaches will tell
you to IMAGINE your home run, to
SEE the pitch, play it out enough
that you KNOW what it'll be and
you KNOW exactly what you're going
to do with it.

Be Like Mike?

That's just what Barry Bonds does
before each of his homers, or if
you like your stars natural,
Albert Pujols does it too. All of
'em.

You want to do the same thing with
the ladies. Create the environment
you'll be entering, and again,
play out various tactics,
comments, and scenarios before you
head out the door. See how they
all go.

You know longer have the advantage
of knowing just what lady you'll
be talking to - you don't know if
it's gonna be a fastball or a
curve - but you can practice your
game on various different types of
ladies.

You'll find that different types
will have all sorts of different
reactions to the same behavior -
great, once you get skilled at
mapping those reactions BEFORE you
say anything, the better you'll be
at picking the right one.

And the more you practice before,
during, and after encounters, the
better you'll get at ALL aspects
of seduction.

Remember to keep it fun, and get
out there. Practice in the real
world most of all - but use the
ones constructed inside your head
as the best dress rehearsal.

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